I was recently cruising around my LinkedIn feed and came across a post asking about practices to ensure you optimally used your time each day. As a time-management/efficiency nerd I could have easily listed six or more “systems” or structures I use to keep organized and manage my time but my response to the post was to share my do-over conversation with the Toad.

The Toad and I have a semi-regular nighttime ritual to name 3 things we liked about the day, 3 things we are looking forward to or 3 things we are grateful for. Occasionally we also add the question “If there was a moment today you could do-over what was it and what would you do to make it different.” Sometimes it is about not responding in frustration (usually mine), missing a shot on net (sometimes me) or speaking up for your own or someone else’s needs. Taking the time to replay a moment honours our humanness, shows grace to ourselves and to others and makes us more mindful of similar moments that might come our way again.